{"id":31450,"date":"2025-03-20T10:13:35","date_gmt":"2025-03-20T09:13:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/?p=31450"},"modified":"2026-02-22T10:28:35","modified_gmt":"2026-02-22T09:28:35","slug":"setkani-v-kavarne","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/setkani-v-kavarne\/","title":{"rendered":"Setk\u00e1n\u00ed v kav\u00e1rn\u011b: kdy\u017e telefon uk\u00e1\u017ee v\u00edc ne\u017e slova"},"content":{"rendered":"

Moment, kdy n\u011bco \u0159ekne\u0161 nahlas<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u0158ekne\u0161:<\/p>\n

\u201eJe mi nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9, \u017ee jsi b\u011bhem rozhovoru na telefonu. M\u00e1m pocit, \u017ee m\u011b neposlouch\u00e1\u0161.\u201c<\/p>\n

Odpov\u011b\u010f:<\/p>\n

\u201eAle j\u00e1 t\u011b poslouch\u00e1m. J\u00e1 zvl\u00e1d\u00e1m v\u00edc v\u011bc\u00ed najednou.\u201c<\/p>\n

Tady se \u010dasto l\u00e1me kontakt.<\/p>\n

Ty mluv\u00ed\u0161 o sv\u00e9m pro\u017eitku. Druh\u00fd mluv\u00ed o sv\u00e9 schopnosti.<\/p>\n

Nejde o to, jestli skute\u010dn\u011b poslouch\u00e1. Jde o to, \u017ee se m\u00edj\u00edte v rovin\u011b, ve kter\u00e9 mluv\u00edte.<\/p>\n

Ty \u0159\u00edk\u00e1\u0161: \u201eJe mi nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u011b.\u201c Druh\u00fd sly\u0161\u00ed: \u201eD\u011bl\u00e1\u0161 n\u011bco \u0161patn\u011b.\u201c A reaguje obranou.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e se reaguje na sebe m\u00edsto na situaci<\/strong><\/p>\n

V tu chv\u00edli nejde o telefon. Jde o schopnost reagovat na to, co zazn\u011blo.<\/p>\n

Odpov\u011b\u010f, kter\u00e1 by udr\u017eela kontakt, by mohla zn\u00edt: \u201eAha. To m\u011b nenapadlo. Odlo\u017e\u00edm ho.\u201c<\/p>\n

Ne proto, \u017ee mus\u00ed, ale proto\u017ee sly\u0161\u00ed, co se d\u011bje mezi v\u00e1mi.<\/p>\n

M\u00edsto toho \u010dasto p\u0159ijde: \u201eTak j\u00e1 ho kv\u016fli tob\u011b odlo\u017e\u00edm.\u201c<\/p>\n

Form\u00e1ln\u011b se nic nem\u011bn\u00ed, telefon zmiz\u00ed. Dynamika ale z\u016fst\u00e1v\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Zn\u00ed v tom:\u201eD\u011bl\u00e1m \u00fastupek.\u201c\u201eNe proto, \u017ee to d\u00e1v\u00e1 smysl.\u201c\u201eAle proto\u017ee to chce\u0161.\u201c<\/p>\n

A pr\u00e1v\u011b tohle b\u00fdv\u00e1 moment, kdy se rozhovor p\u0159estane op\u00edrat o sd\u00edlenou realitu a za\u010dne se op\u00edrat o obranu.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Co takov\u00e1 situace ukazuje<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nejde o pravidla slu\u0161nosti. Jde o to, jak lid\u00e9 zach\u00e1zej\u00ed s pozornost\u00ed a vztahem.<\/p>\n

Takov\u00e9 momenty \u010dasto odhaluj\u00ed:<\/p>\n

\u2013 jak kdo vn\u00edm\u00e1 p\u0159\u00edtomnost<\/p>\n

\u2013 jak reaguje na nepohodl\u00ed druh\u00e9ho<\/p>\n

\u2013 jestli sly\u0161\u00ed obsah, nebo jen kritiku<\/p>\n

\u2013 jestli je ochoten upravit chov\u00e1n\u00ed bez pocitu ztr\u00e1ty<\/p>\n

N\u011bkdy nejde o konflikt.Jen o rozd\u00edln\u00e9 nastaven\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Pro n\u011bkoho je b\u011b\u017en\u00e9 b\u00fdt u rozhovoru i u telefonu.Pro jin\u00e9ho je pln\u00e1 pozornost z\u00e1klad spojen\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Probl\u00e9m nevznik\u00e1 v rozd\u00edlu. Vznik\u00e1 ve chv\u00edli, kdy se rozd\u00edl ned\u00e1 pojmenovat bez obrany.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Co se v takov\u00fdch situac\u00edch opravdu testuje<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ne to, jestli n\u011bkdo pou\u017e\u00edv\u00e1 telefon, ale jestli je prostor reagovat na realitu mezi dv\u011bma lidmi.<\/p>\n

Kdy\u017e n\u011bkdo \u0159ekne:n\u201eJe mi to nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9,\u201c nejde o z\u00e1kaz ani v\u00fdtku. Je to informace o tom, co se d\u011bje v kontaktu.<\/p>\n

A reakce na tuhle informaci \u010dasto uk\u00e1\u017ee v\u00edc ne\u017e samotn\u00e9 chov\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Nen\u00ed to o jednom rozhovoru<\/p>\n

Jedna takov\u00e1 situace nic neznamen\u00e1. Opakovan\u00e9 situace u\u017e ano.<\/p>\n

Pokud se podobn\u00e9 momenty vracej\u00ed a reakce z\u016fst\u00e1v\u00e1 stejn\u00e1, za\u010dne se postupn\u011b m\u011bnit kvalita kontaktu. Ne dramaticky. Sp\u00ed\u0161 nen\u00e1padn\u011b. Rozhovory jsou krat\u0161\u00ed. M\u00e9n\u011b otev\u0159en\u00e9. M\u00e9n\u011b skute\u010dn\u00e9. A \u010dlov\u011bk si za\u010dne v\u0161\u00edmat, kde je jeho pozornost v tom vztahu vlastn\u011b pot\u0159eba.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Ot\u00e1zky, kter\u00e9 mohou b\u00fdt u\u017eite\u010dn\u00e9<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ne pro zm\u011bnu druh\u00e9ho. Pro orientaci v situaci.<\/p>\n

Je v tom kontaktu prostor reagovat na to, co \u0159\u00edk\u00e1m?<\/p>\n

C\u00edt\u00edm se v n\u011bm vn\u00edman\u00fd\/\u00e1 nebo sp\u00ed\u0161 tolerovan\u00fd\/\u00e1?<\/p>\n

M\u011bn\u00ed se n\u011bco, kdy\u017e n\u011bco pojmenuju?<\/p>\n

Je mezi n\u00e1mi sd\u00edlen\u00e1 p\u0159edstava o tom, co znamen\u00e1 b\u00fdt spolu?<\/p>\n

N\u011bkdy odpov\u011bdi nejsou dramatick\u00e9.<\/p>\n

Jen postupn\u011b zp\u0159es\u0148uj\u00ed obraz toho, jak ten vztah funguje.<\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

Nejde o telefon<\/strong><\/p>\n

Telefon je jen viditeln\u00fd prvek. To podstatn\u00e9 je, co se d\u011bje kolem n\u011bj. Jak lid\u00e9 reaguj\u00ed, kdy\u017e se n\u011bco mezi nimi naru\u0161\u00ed. Jak zach\u00e1zej\u00ed s pozornost\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Jak nesou nepohodl\u00ed A jestli je v tom vztahu prostor vracet se k sob\u011b navz\u00e1jem nebo jen k vlastn\u00edm argument\u016fm.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Sed\u00ed\u0161 v kav\u00e1rn\u011b naproti \u010dlov\u011bku, se kter\u00fdm ses rozhodl\/a str\u00e1vit \u010das. P\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 prost\u0159ed\u00ed, dobr\u00e1 k\u00e1va, prostor pro rozhovor. Jen\u017ee mezi v\u00e1mi le\u017e\u00ed je\u0161t\u011b n\u011bco: telefon. Druh\u00fd ob\u010das p\u0159ik\u00fdvne, ob\u010das \u0159ekne \u201ehm\u201c, ale jeho pozornost se opakovan\u011b vrac\u00ed k displeji. Ty mluv\u00ed\u0161 a z\u00e1rove\u0148 c\u00edt\u00ed\u0161, \u017ee tvoje slova nedopadaj\u00ed \u00fapln\u011b na m\u00edsto.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":31451,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"set","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[114],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-31450","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-situace-a-tlaky-v-soucasnem-prostredi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31450","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=31450"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/31450\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/31451"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=31450"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=31450"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=31450"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}