Pocit selh\u00e1n\u00ed \u010dasto nevznik\u00e1 jen z v\u00fdsledku, ale z v\u00fdznamu, kter\u00fd mu v hlav\u011b p\u0159i\u0159ad\u00edte: \u201eZklamal\/a jsem\u201c, \u201eu\u017e mi nejde v\u011b\u0159it\u201c, \u201ete\u010f se uk\u00e1\u017ee, \u017ee na to nem\u00e1m\u201c. V tu chv\u00edli se spou\u0161t\u00ed ochrana. Ne hezk\u00e1 a v\u011bdom\u00e1, ale rychl\u00e1 a automatick\u00e1. Obrann\u00e9 mechanismy u pocitu selh\u00e1n\u00ed maj\u00ed jedin\u00fd kr\u00e1tkodob\u00fd c\u00edl – sn\u00ed\u017eit tlak na sebehodnotu.<\/p>\n
Nechr\u00e1n\u00ed v\u00e1\u0161 v\u00fdkon. Chr\u00e1n\u00ed obraz o sob\u011b a m\u00edsto ve vztaz\u00edch. U lid\u00ed s odpov\u011bdnost\u00ed je to \u010dasto propojen\u00e9 s rol\u00ed: kdy\u017e sel\u017eu, ohroz\u00edm d\u016fv\u011bru t\u00fdmu, partnera, klienta. Mozek pak hled\u00e1 zp\u016fsob, jak bolest \u201en\u011bkam ulo\u017eit\u201c tak, aby byla snesiteln\u00e1. Cena za \u00falevu b\u00fdv\u00e1 posun reality v komunikaci a v rozhodov\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n
Typick\u00fd vzorec je racionalizace: \u201eStejn\u011b to nebylo dob\u0159e zad\u00e1no\u201c, \u201ena tom projektu se nedalo usp\u011bt\u201c. N\u011bkdy je to pravda, jindy je to obal, kter\u00fd m\u00e1 zabr\u00e1nit kontaktu s t\u00edm, co se nepovedlo na va\u0161\u00ed stran\u011b.<\/p>\n
Dal\u0161\u00ed \u010dast\u00e1 varianta je externalizace viny: hled\u00e1n\u00ed vin\u00edka, mikromanagement, tvrdost na druh\u00e9. \u00daleva p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed rychle, ale vztahov\u011b je to drah\u00e9 – lid\u00e9 se st\u00e1hnou, za\u010dnou hl\u00eddat slova, kles\u00e1 ochota n\u00e9st spoluodpov\u011bdnost.<\/p>\n
U n\u011bkter\u00fdch lid\u00ed se spust\u00ed znehodnocen\u00ed sebe<\/a>: \u201eJsem neschopn\u00fd\/\u00e1\u201c a s t\u00edm spojen\u00e9 sta\u017een\u00ed, pasivita nebo odkl\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed. Nevypad\u00e1 to jako obrana, ale je – rad\u011bji p\u0159ijmu roli \u201e\u0161patn\u00e9ho\u201c, ne\u017e abych riskoval\/a dal\u0161\u00ed nejistotu v otev\u0159en\u00e9m prostoru.<\/p>\n A pak je tu pop\u0159en\u00ed nebo minimalizace: \u201eo nic nejde\u201c, \u201eto se vy\u0159e\u0161\u00ed\u201c. N\u011bkdy jde o klid, jindy o odpojen\u00ed od dopad\u016f, kter\u00e9 u\u017e mezit\u00edm b\u011b\u017e\u00ed.<\/p>\n S t\u00edm souvis\u00ed i to, \u010demu se v\u011bnuji detailn\u011bji v textu Kdy\u017e se realita oh\u00fdb\u00e1: obrann\u00e9 mechanismy v praxi<\/a> – jak rychle se z obrany stane komunika\u010dn\u00ed styl.<\/p>\n Dobr\u00e9 vod\u00edtko je jednoduch\u00e9: zvy\u0161uje se v\u00e1m po reakci jasnost, nebo jen \u00faleva? \u00daleva bez jasnosti \u010dasto znamen\u00e1, \u017ee jste n\u011bco odsunuli. A dal\u0161\u00ed sign\u00e1l je opakov\u00e1n\u00ed – stejn\u00fd typ konfliktu, stejn\u00fd typ \u201enedorozum\u011bn\u00ed\u201c, stejn\u00fd pocit, \u017ee mus\u00edte p\u0159itvrdit nebo zmizet.<\/p>\n Praktick\u00fd krok je odd\u011blit fakta<\/a> od interpretac\u00ed: co se skute\u010dn\u011b stalo (m\u011b\u0159iteln\u00e9, pozorovateln\u00e9), co jsem si o tom okam\u017eit\u011b \u0159ekl\/a, a jakou akci to ve mn\u011b spustilo. Tohle mapov\u00e1n\u00ed je z\u00e1klad, se kter\u00fdm pracuji i v r\u00e1mci hloubkov\u00e9ho kou\u010dinku<\/a> na https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz.<\/p>\n Pocit selh\u00e1n\u00ed nen\u00ed probl\u00e9m s\u00e1m o sob\u011b. Probl\u00e9m je, kdy\u017e kv\u016fli n\u011bmu p\u0159estanete vid\u011bt realitu tak, aby \u0161la opravovat – a za\u010dnete ji upravovat tak, aby tolik nebolela.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Obrann\u00e9 mechanismy u pocitu selh\u00e1n\u00ed: jak vznikaj\u00ed, jak oh\u00fdbaj\u00ed realitu a podle \u010deho pozn\u00e1te, \u017ee u\u017e nechr\u00e1n\u00ed, ale \u0159\u00edd\u00ed va\u0161e reakce.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":32513,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[112],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-32512","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-vzorce-chovani-a-reakce"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32512","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=32512"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/32512\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/32513"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=32512"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=32512"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.martinaocadlikova.cz\/cs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=32512"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Jak poznat, \u017ee obrana u\u017e nechr\u00e1n\u00ed, ale \u0159\u00edd\u00ed<\/h2>\n