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A Café Conversation: How Phones Affect Communication
I'm sitting in a café, across from someone I chose to spend time with. Pleasant place, good coffee—perfect setup for a deeper conversation.
But something feels off. The person keeps glancing at their phone while we're talking.
They nod from time to time, say “hmm,” but their fingers are scrolling through Instagram. I'm speaking, but it feels like my words are falling into a void.
When You Share Your Feelings and Get Only a Defensive Reaction
I say out loud what I feel:
“I feel uncomfortable that you're on your phone during our conversation. It makes me feel like you're not really listening.”
And the response?
“But I am listening! I can do multiple things at once.”
And This Is Where It Breaks Down: A Clash of Values and Communication Styles When you talk about yourself, but the other person talks about themselves
I said how I felt:
“This makes me feel uncomfortable.”
A respectful answer could have been:
“Oh, I didn’t mean to make you feel that way. I’ll put my phone away.”
But instead, I hear:
“But I am listening. I can handle it.”
Where’s the Real Problem? The other person doesn’t respond to my feeling—but to themselves. Instead of acknowledging what I said, they defend their point of view. And that’s when true connection disappears.
When Someone Does Something “for You,” but Doesn’t Understand Why:
Eventually I say:
“I’m not doubting that you can multitask—but for me, it feels unpleasant.”
And the response?
“Fine, I’ll put it away for you.”
What Do My Ears Hear?
“I’m only doing it because you want me to, not because I understand.”
“I’m being kind, but I don’t get why it should even matter.”
“I’ll put it away, but I still think it’s unnecessary.”
And Here We Reach the Core: Values. What Values Does This Situation Reflect?
Respect - Sensing the other person’s feelings, not just your own
Presence – Genuine connection in a conversation, not just mechanical replies
Openness to understanding – Not just hearing, but truly seeing the other person
And if your values don’t align, can such a conversation even be pleasant?
So How Can You Respond?
1. Express how you feel—but don’t expect the other person to change
“This makes me feel uncomfortable.”
Their response will reveal whether you share similar values.
2. Ask a direct question
“What’s more important to you right now—Instagram or our conversation?”
The answer will tell you where you stand in their list of priorities.
3. Don’t stay where real connection is missing
Sometimes the solution is simpler than it seems: just don't spend time with people like this.
Conclusion: Can a Conversation with Such a Person Be Positive?
It can... if you don't mind being second priority.
But if you want to be heard and felt, probably not.
It's not about perfection, but about willingness to perceive and respect the other person. And that's something you can't download from Instagram.
What do you think? Has something like this ever happened to you? How would you react?
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I am an accredited coach with a comprehensive background that includes over 130 certifications in various coaching and personal development areas. I hold an MBA in Coaching and Mentoring Leadership, and an MSc in Project Management. My academic journey also includes a CertHE in Child Psychology, and I am currently continuing my studies at the British University of Psychology and Counseling.
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